Tuesday, October 11, 2016

Six Ways to Make People Like you. If you want people to like you......

Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in other people.
1) "Do this  and you will be welcome anywhere."
2) "You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in your."
3)"Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering."
The rule become genuinely interested in other people is a good rule because

Rule 2: Smile
1)"Actions speak louder than words, and smile says, "I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you."
2) "You don't feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile."
3)"It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends
If you always smile people would see you as a friendly person they would want to talk to you. When you smile all the sad things become a little happy.
Rule 3: Remember names 
1)"A man's name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language."
2)"If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble."
 It’s one of my personal frustrations that I am naturally terrible at remembering names. I place great value on truly connecting with other people, and I know one of the simplest ways you can make someone feel recognized is to remember and speak their name. Plus, let’s face it, blanking on someone’s name whom you’ve met before  or worse, just been introduced to  is borderline rude, and fully embarrassing.


Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
1)"If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener."
2)"remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred time more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems.
Good listening isn’t something that we should limit to authority figures. It’s something you can do with everyone you encounter: your friends, your family, significant others, new people in your life – and even yourself. Effective listening offers you many benefits, and encourages the speaker to feel valued as well.

Rule 5: Talk in terms of other man's interest.
"The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."
Talking in terms of the other person’s interests isn’t that hard. It just takes the willingness and patience to be a good listener and the smarts to ask a few good questions. The willingness and patience are the hardest things for most people for a few reasons.If you can be a good listener and talk in terms of the other person’s interests it can end up being fun because you get to know more about another person and you might learn about something new. I encourage you this week to become other-focused and engage people on their terms based on their interests. Do so and you’ll win more friends and influence more people.
Rule 6: Make other person feel important--and do it sincerely.
"The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature." (John Dewey)"Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic."This one is a challenge, and no mistake, because it doesn't work without sincerity.One of the simplest ways to make someone feel important is to give honest and sincere appreciation. At the most fundamental level, an expression of appreciation acknowledges that the other person exists and is valued--the cornerstone of feeling important. Particularly in professional relationships where such things are not expected, goes a long way to helping a person with whom you deal (like your agent, editor, or publicist) feel important in a good way. Of course, it must be sincere, which almost always means it must be personal.

Final Reflection: I think that the six ways to make people like me are going  to help me to be a better friend and make new friends. If you want to talk with some one  and you don't know how following the six ways will be easy.

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